March 9th, 2010 | 
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While the divorce is going through the court system, months—sometimes years!—can pass by while the specifics are being straightened out with the judge. Between the division of property, debts, finances, children, and parenting plans, the judge has a lot to sort through during a divorce. Of course, the more cooperative both parties are, the easier the divorce case can be, but spite, anger, and resentment often rule the courtroom in a divorce case and can drag the courtroom drama on for months on end.
So while the divorce is going through the courts, it’s an excellent idea to sit down with your soon-to-be ex-wife and decide upon a parenting plan that works for both of you as a means of temporarily setting up how things will run during the course of the divorce proceedings. This is a temporary agreement that you both decide upon in order to make rules and regulations in regards to the caring of the children, the payment of debts and credit cards, and how each other will help support the other during this time of financial stress.
It is important to make this plan as detailed as possible—list times, dates, holiday specifics, and visitation specifically, and do not be vague—this can work against you in the long run. Keep the phrases “upon agreement of the parties” and “reasonable visitation” out of your parenting plan—this is setting you up for disaster as a father in a brutal divorce case.
Make sure that the parenting plan you work with your wife on is a parenting plan that you would be satisfied with after the divorce is finalized as well. Most courts will look at the temporary parenting plan as a resource as to how both parents feel about the division of their property, debts and children, so make sure you include as much father/child time as you can to avoid setting yourself up for failure in the courtroom when you go in for your custody hearings.
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Tags: Debts, Disaster, Divorce Proceedings, Failure, Parenting Plan, Parenting Plans, Phrases, Spite